It’s rare to find a song that feels like it was written about my life, but Raisa’s new song “Si Paling Mahir” captures a part of me I often keep hidden. The lyrics touch on being that person who is always there to make things look easier than they really are—to make difficult things look simple, even beautiful.
She sings:
"Kalau bukan aku, siapa yang bisa
Membuat yang sulit terlihat mudah?
Kalau bukan aku, siapa yang mau
Membuat yang berat terlihat ringan dengan indah?
Aku si paling mahir
Terlihat baik-baik saja (Baik-baik saja)"
For those who resonate with this, you know the pressure. There’s an unsaid responsibility, a sort of emotional role we take on, to make things seem okay. Growing up, I had to figure things out myself. I learned how challenging it is when you’re lost, struggling to find direction or comfort. Because of that, I grew into someone who wanted to spare others from feeling that way. I became a people pleaser—a fixer, if you will—taking on the weight so others wouldn’t have to.
But “Si Paling Mahir” brings up a side of this that hits deeper. It reflects that quiet struggle of keeping up appearances, making sure everyone around you feels secure even if you’re internally drained. Being this “master” of looking okay sometimes means sacrificing your own peace for the sake of others.
Yet, as time passed, I learned to be selective. There’s a difference between helping out of genuine care and constantly putting yourself aside. Now, I only extend this support to people who truly value and deserve it. It’s a change that’s empowering, and Raisa’s lyrics serve as a reminder: just because we can make things look easy doesn’t mean we should always have to.
“Si Paling Mahir” isn’t just a song; it’s a reminder of that hidden strength but also a call to value oneself. And if you’re someone who feels like you always have to keep up appearances for everyone else—maybe it’s time to choose who gets to see that side of you.
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